Anger is one of the stages of grief, though to be honest I thought I’d kind of skipped that part. I’ve never been an angry person; I might be upset or passionate about something, but anger for me was always like a match; it flares to life but dies out quickly. This is clearly one of the ways in which I’ve changed.
An increasing amount of time, I feel like that hot coal Buddha was talking about is burning in my chest. It hurts, but I don’t want to get rid of it. I want to be mad. I want to yell and curse and throw things, to remind people that that quiet nice girl who used to be here is dead and you probably shouldn’t mess with the one who took her place.
We all know that anger can be useful to a point, and past that point it’s more toxic than anything else. When all else fails, when you can’t have the conversation you need to, or can’t physically work out that stress, there are other, more inward-facing options. And I fully admit this list is as much for myself as my readers. Deep breaths, right?
- Try a binding spell
Binding spells, when performed correctly, can be quite effective. You can bind yourself from feeling certain things or from acting a certain way, your emotions from affecting you as strongly, or (with much more care) you can bind other people from certain actions, words or influences. Binding spells are typically a temporary fix though, as their effect will wear off after some time. My ice cube binding spell lasted a couple of weeks.
- Set your altar with releasing elements and meditate
By releasing elements I mean things that represent purification, freedom and understanding. Arrange any stones associated with cleansing one’s mental self (a few of my favorite are amethyst, jet, obsidian, or blue apatite) on your altar along with herbs with healing properties, such as cinnamon and sage. Add things that soothe you – your favorite incense, meditation music, a cup of wine. Use a bell to cleanse the space and meditate with the intent of releasing the negative.
- Rebalance your chakras
I’m only beginning to delve into chakras, but from what I understand, they can become out of balance fairly easily when you are exposed to negative interferences. The basic way to get yourself realigned is to sit with a straight back (because energy flows vertically in your body, from chakra to chakra) and spend anywhere from a couple of seconds to several minutes visualizing the different colored energies at each chakra, bringing them back to life and reconnecting them.
Now this is one that I’m familiar with. My Motherpeace tarot is my medium of choice, but scrying, reading runes, pendulums, astrology, etc. are all valid options. Frame your question or desire in the best way for your chosen medium and take a peek at the lay of the land after the dust has settled. Remember that you might want to be looking for what the resolution to your anger will look like as opposed to specific actions. When you have a better idea of the desired end result, the other pieces will fall into place.
- Smudge it out
When the more subtle arts don’t seem to be working, hit that negative energy where it hurts. Take a white sage bundle and purify yourself, your space, or your emotions and energies. Smudging is a straightforward, no-nonsense option that doesn’t require a ritual or more than just your intent to get rid of the anger and other built-up negative energies.
- Try a send away spell
Send away spells are any spell where you infuse some form of energy (like emotions you want to get rid of) into an inanimate object and literally send it away from you. My typical way of doing this is choosing a rock from my stash of river stones and treating it like a worry stone, playing with it for a while and letting all of the negative be drawn into it. It then goes to one of the local creeks where the stone and my troubles are carried away.
- Elemental magic
Elemental magic can be both powerful and simplistic. Simply chose the element that you either identify with or feel is the most appropriate for addressing your anger and utilize it to diminish the emotion. Write the situation down on a notecard, and then for fire, let the flame of a ritual candle burn it away. For water, submerge it in a bowl of moon water. For earth, bury it outside, sending it back to the earth. For wind, simply let the wind carry it away.